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Actress Mandy Moore is talking more about her marriage to musician Ryan Adams, following a New York Times piece she participated in detailing the singer/songwriter’s alleged history of championing aspiring female artists and then manipulating and harassing them.
On Marc Maron’s WTF podcast on Monday afternoon, Moore said their relationship was marred by an “unhealthy dynamic” from the start.
“I was living my life for him. … I had no sense of self,” she told Maron. “I felt like I was drowning. It was so untenable and unsustainable and it was so lonely. I was so sad. I was lonely with him.”
Moore said she routinely passed on major acting opportunities, fearing how Adams would react of she was away from home too long.
“I would do little jobs. It’s not like I completely stopped working. I would do things here or there, but it became abundantly clear while I was working, things would completely fall apart at home,” she added. “I couldn’t do my job because there was just a constant stream of trying to pay attention to this person who needed me and wouldn’t let me do anything else.”
“Six months later, I got ‘This Is Us.’ ”
Moore’s interview comes days after musician Phoebe Bridgers went into more detail about her own relationship with Adams.
In the Times piece, the 24-year-old said she and Adams had a whirlwind relationship that ended after he became, as the Times reports, “obsessive and emotionally abusive.”
To the outlet, Adams refuted Bridgers account through his lawyer. He described their relationship as “a brief, consensual fling” and denied her claim he threatened to withhold songs they recorded together.
“It’s been a weird week and I wanted to say a couple things,” Bridgers began in an Instagram post shared Saturday, thanking her friends, bands and mother. “They all supported and validated me. They told me that what had happened was (expletive) up and wrong, and that I was right to feel weird about it. I couldn’t have done this without them.
“Ryan had a network too,” she continued. “Friends, bands, people he worked with. None of them held him accountable. They told him, by what they said or by what they didn’t, that what he was doing was okay. They validated him. He couldn’t have done this without them.”
Bridgers then made a call for people to point out their friends’ out of line behavior.
“Guys, if your friend is acting (expletive) up, call them out. If they’re actually your friend, they’ll listen,” she wrote. “That’s the way this all gets better.”
Mandy Moore, Adams’ ex-wife who also talked to the Times, praised Bridgers for her post.
“Spot on,” the “This Is Us” star commented. “(Heart emoji) you, friend.”
Moore, who was married to Adams from 2009 to 2016, told the Times she empathizes with the women who have accused her ex of exploiting and then stifling female artists’ ambitions because she experienced it herself during their marriage.
“Music was a point of control for him,” she told the outlet. “His controlling behavior essentially did block my ability to make new connections in the industry during a very pivotal and potentially lucrative time – my entire mid-to-late 20s.”
“What you experience with him – the treatment, the destructive, manic sort of back-and-forth behavior – feels so exclusive,” Moore said. “You feel like there’s no way other people have been treated like this.”
After the Times story published, Moore posted a message on Instagram about the importance of speaking up.
“Speaking your truth can be painful and triggering but it’s always worth it,” she captioned an image of herself used for the Times’ story. “My heart is with all women who have suffered any sort of trauma or abuse. You are seen and heard. #sisterhoodforever”
Via Adams’ lawyer, he wrote-off Moore’s accusations as “completely inconsistent with his view of the relationship,” claiming he applauded her “well-deserved professional success.”
Contributing: Marie Puente
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